Tell your child: Imagine that you are feeling in an ordinary mood, and suddenly you receive some really great news, e.g. winning an overseas holiday; or very bad news, e.g. that someone you love is badly injured. Your mood changes instantaneously: your brain releases hormones which make you feel immediately different. Parents see children change moods when something good is about to happen. Children see angry parents turn polite the moment the phone rings or visitors arrive. Everyone can change mood very quickly when necessary. When you change your mood, you change your behaviour.
Change your mindset when bullies are close. Hide your anger and fear. Take away the bully's power by appearing cool and calm. And always inject yourself with some confidence.
Say to your child,'If I gave you a million dollars, could you behave like a cool kid in front of a bully? How would you look and stand? What facial expression would you use and how would your voice sound?'
Now say,'Tell me about a fantastic experience you have had or would like to have.'
Watch their behaviour. Every child will show some signs of looking more confident.
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Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.