Self-esteem is like money in the bank. When you regularly deposit funds into your bank account, there is money when you need it. If you don't, there won't be enough funds when times are tough. Everyone has ups and downs. If your self-esteem bank is in credit, you can withdraw some to help you handle difficult, upsetting moments.
Ian, a psychologist, lost his hair when he was six years of age. He was bullied for years. He explains: 'I learnt that by covering my head and always wearing caps, I was hiding from the real me and trying to become acceptable to others. This was a real burden.' After a while he stopped covering his head, and said,'I needed to let them know that I was happy with the way I was. This put them at ease, and I also felt more at ease, instead of wondering how they would relate to me. The more I accepted myself, the more others accepted me.' He also laughed at himself and compensated by developing interesting hobbies.
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