If you have poor self-esteem, you feel bad about who you are. It's like having a bully living inside you. If you can't respect yourself, then you can't respect others; nor can they respect you. If your self-respect is low then it's hard to relate to all types of nice or nasty children. Basically, you let the bully relate to you in the same mean, critical way you relate to yourself.
Although some children believe it's acceptable to criticise themselves, they don't like others criticising them. They become angry! If you get upset and say, 'I'm not fat, you are!' or 'How dare you call me dumb!', the bully notices that you reacted to this tease but not to others. He will use it many times to bully you.
This is weird!
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