First transform your childs attitudes

As children grow, they gather values and beliefs about how life should be. They absorb attitudes from their family, friends, school, television and society. Clearly the bully has an 'attitude' problem and should develop respect and empathy for others. However, targets also need to change their 'attitude'. They carry faulty thoughts which make it easy for bullies to use them as target practice.

Targets need to 'reprogramme' their negative, powerless attitude before they can change behaviours to block the bullying. They need to accept that bullying happens, consider it carefully and then take effective action. Once they re-adjust their view of themselves and others, they can replace the following faulty attitudes with sensible, self-protective ones. When you change your state of mind, you change your behaviour.

Tell your child: Imagine that a few negative computer programs were implanted into your brain a long time ago. It's time to trash the old stuff that makes a bully happy. Now visualise yourself installing a new program into your brain which takes away the bully's power. This program empowers you to maintain strong eye contact, look confident, act assertively and give neutral retorts. Once you change the game, you are far less likely to become bully fodder.

Confident Kids

Confident Kids

Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.

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