As children grow, they gather values and beliefs about how life should be. They absorb attitudes from their family, friends, school, television and society. Clearly the bully has an 'attitude' problem and should develop respect and empathy for others. However, targets also need to change their 'attitude'. They carry faulty thoughts which make it easy for bullies to use them as target practice.
Targets need to 'reprogramme' their negative, powerless attitude before they can change behaviours to block the bullying. They need to accept that bullying happens, consider it carefully and then take effective action. Once they re-adjust their view of themselves and others, they can replace the following faulty attitudes with sensible, self-protective ones. When you change your state of mind, you change your behaviour.
Tell your child: Imagine that a few negative computer programs were implanted into your brain a long time ago. It's time to trash the old stuff that makes a bully happy. Now visualise yourself installing a new program into your brain which takes away the bully's power. This program empowers you to maintain strong eye contact, look confident, act assertively and give neutral retorts. Once you change the game, you are far less likely to become bully fodder.
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