Strip the tease

The bully scores each time you become upset and then react. Decide whether the tease is true or not. If it's not true, why get upset If it is true, why get upset Maybe you can change, e.g. lose weight, practise sport, change hairstyles. What can you do to accept a permanent situation, such as a physical disability, your ethnicity - e.g. make a joke or a fun limerick, get a confidence badge Whatever it is, circulate a detailed leaflet about your condition in your class. Get energy by...

Using retorts or comebacks

Most bullying begins with words and escalates from there. The worst form of bullying is teasing. It can linger in your mind for years and affect your behaviour forever. Don't listen to the mean words, take them seriously or become upset. Instead, take the nasty bits out of the tease and return it without venom. Recycle the bully's verbal garbage by using a retort or a politically correct comeback. If you don't fight back physically or verbally, the bully has nothing to push against. He loses...

Bullies and targets

Warrenhasan odd relationship with Tom. They used to be closefriends but their relationship changed once Tom joined the cool group. Warren hangs around Tom and his mates when they play sport. Warren hates itwhen Tompusheshim away or when the boys physically knock him around. Tom and his crew don't like Warren - they call him a 'geek'. Despite these negative vibes, Warren believes their attention is better than nothing. Unconsciously, he prefers to be alienated by a popular group than to be...

The damage done

John was bullied at school every day for eight years. They called him a 'stupid, fat wog. He was excluded and physically pushed around. He felt like the class buffoon or punching bag. The teachers oftenjoined in, and even instigated some attacks. Following his suicide attempt, John finally left that school. Now that he is suing the school for disregarding his welfare, he is aware of how his obsessive behaviours, poor social life and fear of others mocking him resulted from the bullying. Despite...

The schools ethical and legal obligations

Schools need to view bullying as an abuse of the human rights of the target, bully, onlookers, parents and teachers. They have a responsibility to handle all forms of violence as it is dealt with in their community. Ideally, schools need to regard bullying as a symptom of dysfunction, a relationship breakdown that requires respectful resolution i.e. a win-win situation . Unfortunately, many schools reflect the broader society in adopting an adversarial approach whereby someone wins and someone...

Bullying an overview

Child Physical Restraint

'Adam is always calling people who are littler than him names.' 'Darren always calls you names and he hits you when you walk past. Kids are sick of him.' 'Jason teases me just because I'm different and he makes me upset.' 'Kim spreads lies about me by email every week.' 'I hate the fact that I don't know who's spreading nasty gossip about me in the chat group or who is sending texts text messages to my phone.' 'I walked around the corner and Jeff kicked me for no reason.' 'Sally punches, pushes...

What causes bullying

John was born in Singapore to aJapanese mother and an American father. He went to preschool in Singapore and then to a Canadian schoolfor a few years. Each time his family relocated to another culture, he felt increasingly different to other children. It was stressful to balance his family's internal cultural conflicts and simultaneously deal with the cultural differences in each school. Then his father was transferred to Australia. Once he entered this new 'rough 'n ready' environment, his low...

Isbn 978-1-84642-632-2

'Bully Blocking contains many imaginative suggestions for parents and children on how to cope with the problem of being victimised by their peers at school.' Ken Rigby, Adjunct Professor, University of South Australia, author of Bullying in Schools and What to Do About It 'Evelyn Field's thoughtful and beautifully written book is both timely and needed, providing young people and their carers with a variety of skills, knowledge and strategies to counter the problem of bullying and teasing. The...