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Arrange for and encourage the child to engage in positive social interactions with peers. (5, 6, 7) 28. Council the parents to brainstorm with the child appropriate, socially acceptable methods of dealing with the triggers and targets of aggressive or inappropriate social interactions (e.g., use an I statement, walk away, use humor, take a personal time out, get help from an adult).
Our take Although this is a great program for the child considering competitive debating or a career in law or business, every child will benefit from learning these skills. If a kid is committed to overcoming shyness, this program might be the answer, but note that these debate devotees take it very seriously. Most professionals require strong speaking skills and the ability to speak effectively in front of large groups. This program is an excellent way to hone the skills necessary to craft a debating position and develop more fluid speech.
Parker and Nelson (2005a) worked with institutionalized Romanian infants between the ages of 7 and 32 months, examining the ERPs evoked by fearful, angry, happy, and sad facial expressions in order to ascertain whether these youngsters' deficits in processing emotional and social cues in behavioral interactions might have their origins in difficulties in the recognition of basic human emotions (see, e.g., O'Connor, Brendenkamp, & Rutter, 1999 O'Connor, Rutter, Beckett, Keaveney, & Kreppner, 2000 Rutter et al., 1999). Parker and Nelson (2005a) theorized that early institutional rearing, through its disruption of normal social interactions, may deprive the amygdala and its associated neural networks of vital experiences through which social and emotional stimuli are associated with internal states of pleasure and displeasure, thereby eventuating in deficits in the recognition of facial expressions of emotion. Specifically,
Culture influences parenting patterns and child development from very early in infancy through such factors as when and how parents care for infants, the extent to which parents permit infants freedom to explore, how nurturant or restrictive parents are, which behaviors parents emphasize, and so forth (Benedict, 1938 Bornstein, 1991 Erikson, 1950 Whiting, 1981). For example, Japan and the United States maintain reasonably similar levels of modernity and living standards and both are child centered, but the two differ dramatically in terms of history, culture, beliefs, and childrearing goals (e.g., Azuma, 1986 Bornstein, 1989e Caudill, 1973). Japanese mothers expect early mastery of emotional maturity, self-control, and social courtesy in their offspring, whereas U.S. American mothers expect early mastery of verbal competence and self-actualization in theirs. American mothers promote autonomy and organize social interactions with their infants so as to foster physical and verbal...
In many families the parenting patterns are based on outdated cultural traditions, their own parents' example, or are controlled by current factors such as the hectic pace of modern life, work obligations, social isolation, exhaustion, electronic gadgets, personality difficulties or marital issues. Sadly, the modern busy family schedule leaves little room for connecting and communicating (see Chapter 3).
As mentioned in Chapter 3, electrical and electronic equipment has enriched our lives, but it can be abused. Some children are allowed unlimited television, computer Internet electronic game time. The research is clear being hooked to an electronic screen can lead to depression, social isolation and loneliness. Unfortunately, this is where many shy children disappear. Electronic security blankets may replace valuable socialising time. Chatting on the Net will never replace face-to-face interaction, unless humans are genetically reprogrammed. Some children claim that they release their frustrations while playing computer games, but there is limited supporting evidence. They need to do something physical and verbal with someone who is real - otherwise their gut instinct can't function.
Some children find it hard to be friendly and relate to a group of kids. You may have personal difficulties that affect your socialising. Perhaps you don't know how to begin a conversation, have fun or join in unorganised activities at lunchtime or recess. You may say or do the wrong thing, be very quiet and find social situations hard. Other children then see you as different.
When Ben was younger and before the many interventions and therapies we embarked on in a bid to reach him, it was very obvious that he had difficulties in social situations .he just didn't interact at all. In his own world he laughed and flapped and flicked and lined things up and people were merely objects to be used to gain access to his needs or wants. Now autism is much harder to spot in Ben - in fact I am sure there are those who would dispute the diagnosis (or maybe I am fooling myself). Ben wants desperately to interact with people. He chats to everyone he meets, follows strangers around asking them the familiar questions (what is their name and what is their website called ) but yet his interaction is certainly not like other children. Lorna Wing (Wing and Gould 1979) noted that autistic children fell into certain categories 'aloof', 'passive' or 'active but odd'. Ben is most definitely the 'active but odd' autistic child. Ben now wants to interact with people but to do so he...
In my household, as you have seen, I have a combination of rather unusual characters with very different personalities and so have to help Luke and Matthew as they negotiate their pathway to adulthood. Dyslexia is making it harder for Matthew to fill out application forms in his bid to find employment and his rigidity and difficulties with social situations all make the interview stage even harder for him if he does get that far. As I have already written, Luke is struggling through the worst time of adolescence and this is being exacerbated (for all of us ) by the fact that he is being ruled totally and utterly by his obsessions at the moment. In general, teenagers with autism or related conditions have their own shade of difficulties in adolescence and sometimes the explosion of 'colour' is blinding Whilst focusing on parenting a 'multicoloured' combination of children, this book would be sadly lacking if I didn't write a full chapter on the whole minefield of adolescence and its...
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