Soccer Training Programs by the Pros
One day Anamaria was at soccer practice with her older daughter, Rachel, and reading Endangered Minds, a parenting book by Jane Healy. Peggy, another mom, noticed the book, which she had read, and started a conversation. After a brief discussion about the trials and tribulations of raising the boys, Peggy asked if she could help.
A simple way to help them is by pointing out what they did that deserved merit and then reminding them to acknowledge themselves internally (to use self-talk ). Here's how it works suppose your son has had difficulty controlling his temper whenever he loses at his soccer games. This time you noticed that he really made an effort to use self-control and not blame everyone for the loss. During a private moment, encourage him to acknowledge his success John, you really made an effort not to say anything negative about the other team today. You used good self-control. Did you remember to tell yourself that you did a great job
Materials a soccer ball, several peppercorns, several pins (w pinheads), a ping-pong ball, a marble, and an open field Find a large open space. Put a soccer ball in the middle to represent the sun. Walk ten paces from the ball and stick a pin in the ground. That's Mercury. Take nine more full steps and drop a peppercorn for Venus. Seven more steps, drop another peppercorn for Earth. An inch away from Earth, stick another pin in the ground for the Moon, remembering that this inch is the furthest humans have been so far. Another fourteen steps, drop a very small peppercorn for Mars, then continue another 95 steps and drop Jupiter, a ping-pong ball. 112 paces further, place a large marble for Saturn. Uranus and Neptune are still further apart, and recently demoted Pluto would be a small pinhead about a half mile from the soccer ball. So how far would you have to walk before you can put down another soccer ball for Proxima Centauri, the very nearest star to our Sun Bring your good shoes...
One day I realized that as my kids got older home life was getting tougher than ever to balance. More activities. More schedules. More carpools. And more financial strains. So I finally decided to set a new house rule only one extra activity per semester, whether it's band, soccer, art, chess, or dance. So every semester I hold individual appointments with each of my children. They choose the one activity they really want to do and pledge to stick with it (and practice) for the coming months. I even make the older ones sign a contract. Some activities are nonnegotiable (such as the youth church group or tutoring if needed).
Feel free to go to the party as long as Justin's father assures me that he will be there to chaperone versus You're not going to that party until I know it will be chaperoned ) and limited choices (e.g., Would you rather do the dishes or drive your brother to soccer versus Do you want to help me or not ) (See Parenting Teens with Love and Logic by Cline and Fay.)
In another study, Baker-Ward, Eaton, and Banks (2005) examined 10-year-old children's memory for a soccer tournament in which they had participated. Although objectively all children had experienced the same event, the outcomes and children's emotional reactions varied. That is, some children won, others lost. When children's memory was tested shortly after the game, the overall amount of information recalled did not differ between those who had won versus those who had lost. However, children who won reported more details about the game itself, whereas children who lost reported more interpretive or evaluative details (e.g., why the game was lost). Thus, children's emotional reactions to the outcome of the game appeared to differentially direct their recounting of the experience toward particular types of information. Of interest, BakerWard et al. (2005) commented that some of the children who lost the tournament reported feeling sad, whereas others reported being angry. The...
Help your child use his or her energy and need to dominate in a more positive way, for example, by encouraging him or her to participate in a sport like basketball or soccer, in which one must play by the rules. Explore any particular talents your child may have that can be further developed to enhance his or her self-esteem.
Sue Summit of Minneapolis noticed something amiss one blistering January morning when William, her first-grader, declined to get on the school bus. Worried that something had happened at school, she queried her child as to what might have happened. A bully A bad grade William assured her that none of those were the cause, and simply told her the real reason I haven't had enough playtime. A bit of soul searching and a review of her seven-year-old's schedule were enough to tell Sue her kid was right. Soccer, hockey, and violin lessons left little free time for what kids like to do best-just hang around, goof off, and play. As Sue said, Sometimes things get out of whack, and you have to pull back and determine why it's not working. We've made different adjustments over the years. Their new family rule schoolwork always comes first, and then William takes on no more than one extra activity at a time.
Positive Pushing How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child, by Jim Taylor (New York Hyperion, 2002). The author contrasts the old style of parental pushing that's overinvested in kids' grades and soccer scores with the positive pushing of parents who invite children to gain joy from their achievements.
The Lesson a Real Mother Teaches No mother wants her child to suffer heartaches and disappointments. Our basic maternal instinct is to try to protect our kids from frustrations and solve their problems for them. But real moms know that doing so would prevent their children from developing the very skills they'll need to deal with the multitude of issues they'll face in the real world. One of the simplest ways to influence your child's future without you is also the easiest to use stop rescuing Do not write one more cover-up note to your child's teacher. Do not put out the garbage when your child conveniently disappears. Do not take your kid's overdue library book back and pay the fine. Do not go back and get your kid's forgotten soccer shoes for the umpteenth time. If you really want your child
Most importantly, any girl struggling with an eating disorder needs to be overwhelmed by grace. She needs your grace as a parent when she causes her soccer team to lose or makes her first C on a report card. Consequences still apply, at times, but she needs to know that your love for her is not related to her performance.
Girls in their Adventurous Years are dependent on their bodies. Those bodies are helping them learn to kick a soccer ball, turn a cartwheel, and pedal a bike. They are spurring on their adventurousness. Within and without, your daughter's body is going through a period of slow, consistent growth during these years. Her squishy, chubby, adorable toddler body is making the gradual, long shift to the awkwardness of early adolescence. This affects her motor development, her memory, her emotions, and her femininity. As we said before, these are the years of tennis lessons, gymnastics, soccer practice, and basketball. These are the years of dads running alongside their daughters' bikes as the training wheels come off. Girls are not only able but need to participate in activities to develop these gross motor skills. This helps to increase both their competence at various activities and their confidence in themselves.
Cath, the astute mother of ten-year-old Tim, recently told me a nice, illustrative story of how she used a toy metaphorically. Tim was a keen and capable young soccer player, but after his team lost the Following the nocturnal jigsaw solving and his discussion ofwhat had happened, he declared to his mother, Only I can help myself. Then what do you need to do to help yourself she replied. Tim talked to his coach, changed positions, began to enjoy his soccer again, and was soon sleeping well.
Stop immediately doing anything that compensates for your child's irresponsibility. Do not write one more cover-up note to your child's teacher. Do not do put out the garbage when your kid conveniently disappears. Do not take your kid's overdue library book and pay the fine. Do not go back and get your kid's forgotten soccer shoes for the umpteenth time. Instead, make your kid take the consequences of his irresponsible attitude. Remember that your role is guider, not doer, and that single tweak will do much to change your child's bad attitude.
As a girl develops, her mom changes just as much as she does. She starts off as the best Band-Aid-putter-on-er and crossing-the-street-hand-holder of all times. She then becomes a pretty good carpool driver and soccer cheerleader. What seems like weeks later, she passes through a stage where she is not really good at anything and becomes much less intelligent than her daughter.
I (Melissa) recently met with a young soccer player named Andrea. She was to compete in a state tournament but had to choose between the tournament and a family trip to Europe that had been planned for six months. When she told her coach, the coach became angry. This was Andrea's response to the coach's anger I hate that my parents are making me go on the trip. Not that I don't want to go, but I just feel bad hurting my coach. She was a really good soccer player when she was in high school and would give anything to get to play in this tournament. Andrea is acting as a redemption child for her soccer coach. She is fulfilling her coach's dreams and wishes for her life. We also see this happen in families. A parent who loved cheerlead-ing makes her daughter try out for cheerleading year after year, when the daughter hates it and is more creative than athletic. Or a father makes his athletic daughter take art lessons twice a week because his parents discouraged his artistic inclinations...
Soccer Fitness 101
Be a star on the field in no time! Get Fit For The Soccer Field In 10 Easy Steps! With soccer season looming just around the corner it’s never too early to start getting ready. Soccer is an intense game, and it’s going to take a lot of work on your part to make sure that you’re ready to stay ahead of your competition out on that field.