Now reflect on how you typically respond to your child's narrow-minded attitude. Start by reviewing the last few times your kid was narrow-minded. Now replay the scene in your mind. What was the issue about, and, more important, how did you respond to her attitude? If she made a biased comment or joke, did you laugh or let her know you thought it was "cute"? What about your nonverbal messages? Did she see you smile, quietly chuckle, or nod your head in agreement? Did you respond with another biased comment or joke? Or did you ignore her comment, pretend you didn't hear it, and let it slide?
Did you feel uncomfortable about her comment and express your discomfort? Did you tell her why you were uncomfortable? If you didn't say anything, did she see your uneasiness in your body language? For instance, did you frown, roll your eyes, shake your head, or frown?
Did you agree or disagree with her view? Did you let her know your opinion? If so, how? For instance, did you debate the issue with her and point out why the comment was narrow-minded or offer evidence to support your view? Did you ask her to defend her opinion? Listen to her side carefully? Ask her where she obtained the information? Ask why she feels the way she does? If you didn't disagree with her, how will she learn a different view?
If your kid said a prejudicial, biased comment directed at someone, did you hold her accountable? For instance, did you ask her to reflect on how the victim felt? Demand that she apologize or do something toward the person to try and remove the hurt? Did your kid comply with your requests?
What is the one response you know does not work in stopping her narrow-minded, prejudicial attitude? Write it down so you will remember never to use it again.
I will not_
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