Now reflect on how you typically respond to your child's pes-simism.Think of the last time your kid displayed this attitude. Where were the two of you? How did the incident start? What did your child say? How did you respond? Be specific. What did you say and do? Did you ignore it by walking away, dismiss it ("That's not true!"), belittle it ("Why would you say that?"), or agree with him ("You're right, you probably won't do well.You didn't study")? Were you insulting, judging, criticizing, humiliating, threatening, or yelling? What about your nonverbal cues. Do you smirk, smile, shrug your shoulders, shake your head, or raise your eyebrows?
Now think of your kid's reaction. How did he react to your response? What did he say or do? What about his facial expressions? After your response, did he appear more relieved? More stressed? Perplexed? Irritated? Frustrated? Get into his shoes. How would you feel if you just heard that response? What is one response you know never helps your kid to be less pessimistic? Write it.
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Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.