How do you respond when your kid loses a sporting event or other competition or gets a poor grade? Do you ask him, "Why didn't you do as well as last time?""Were the other kids upset with you?""How about the teacher [or coach]?""What did you get?""Why didn't you score?""Why didn't you get more playing time?""How much longer do you have to have that coach?""Why did you get such a bad grade?""What did the other kids get?""Was your teacher mad?"
Do you get mad? Blame your kid? Blame the teacher or coach? Plan to retaliate? Threaten to sue? What message is your kid picking up from your response? What response do you now realize you should never repeat?
I will not_
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