Step Uncover the Source

Here are some common reasons that your child may be so arrogant. Check off those that might pertain to your situation:

□ She may feel the need to show off her talents, skills, or intelligence. Have you set a precedent in which your kids display their talents to friends, relatives, or one another?

□ She may be jealous or resentful. Do you favor one child, or does she feel that you do? Do you compare her capabilities—academic, social, aesthetic, or athletic—to those of classmates, peers, neighborhood kids, cousins, or your friend's kids?

□ She may need attention or want to improve her social status. Does she feel the way to make friends is by "impressing" them? Does she lack social skills to find friends who accept her for herself?

□ She may feel that this is the way to gain your approval. Do you emphasize the concept of "what did you get?" (grades,"gold stars," goals, scores) to your kid? Do you reinforce or reward (such as with money or privileges) your child's performance?

□ She may feel "privileged" or "above others." Do you stress your family's status—financial, social, educational, professional—as being better than others?

□ She may be self-centered. Have you made your child feel as though no one is as intelligent, talented, or capable as she is?

□ She may feel inadequate. Is she trying to prove her capabilities to others because deep down she feels not good enough?

□ She models what she hears. Does she hear other family members boasting and mimic them?

□ She may be competitive. Is competition to be the best a priority in your house, and so she feels the need to prove she meets your expectations?

Identifying the specific reasons for your child's arrogant attitude will aid tremendously in changing it.

Confident Kids

Confident Kids

Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.

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