One of the most important steps to curb an uncooperative attitude is to emphasize cooperation and make sure your kid knows its value. Take time to define the meaning of cooperation, explaining the positive impact it has on others and the long-term benefits for your kid.To serve as a constant reminder, you might consider making a poster with your child listing kinds of cooperative deeds that family members can do for one another. Here are a few points to discuss:
"Being cooperative makes other kids happy" or "When you aren't cooperative and don't share or take turns, it makes the other person sad and not want to play." "Cooperation is in your own self-interest since it is the most effective way to succeed in getting things done and achieving your own goals." "Cooperation makes the world a nicer, more peaceful place, because it helps people get along." "Being cooperative means you're thinking not just about yourself but also about the other person.And that's a big part of being nice." "When you work with others as a team, you are more likely to get more accomplished because you are all cooperating and doing part of the work."
Be sure to share examples of contemporary news and history, in business, government, and your local community. For example, read books together about how the founding fathers worked as a team to solve major problems when forming this country. And don't forget the Allied Forces during World War II, the United Nations, and other examples of famous teamwork in sports and entertainment. For younger kids, point out groups in your own community that work together to help keep your child safe, like their teachers, the police, the doctors and nurses in the hospital, and firefighters.
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Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.