The first step in eliminating a fresh attitude is to determine which behaviors you consider inappropriate. Only then can you eliminate them from your kid's repertoire.Where do you draw the line between normal teasing and family banter and a downright rude, disrespectful, fresh attitude? What is your family's rule about four-letter words? Your kid won't know the boundaries unless you do. All kids slip every once in a while, but what is your kid doing or saying that is really fresh? The best test is that a fresh attitude is rude, embarrassing, or hurtful and always disrespectful. Keep in mind that freshness can be delivered in three ways: with words, a fresh voice tone, or with body gestures:
• Fresh words: "You're a very bad Mommy!" "Get real!" "Don't you know anything?""Yeah, right!""That is so stupid!" "Whatever" "That sucks." "F-you!"
• Fresh tone: sarcastic, hostile, arrogant, silent, negative, imitates your tone or words mockingly.
• Fresh body gestures: smirking, sighing, rolling eyes, vulgar finger gestures.
Make a list of the fresh words, tone, or body gestures your kid typically uses. Talk with others who witness your kid's fresh attitude, and add their observations. Finally, pass your list on to any adult—spouse, day care, grandparents— involved in the attitude makeover so you're on board together.
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