Before starting your first attitude makeover, keep in mind a few points. Remember that attitudes are learned, so they can be unlearned. Helping your child unlearn his own bad atti tudes means you'll need a specific makeover plan, and that's exactly what I give you in this book.All you need to do is identify the bad attitude you want to change, find the chapter that addresses it, and then be committed and consistent in following the specific plan of action per attitude.
Here's an exercise to help you figure out where to start and how to maintain your commitment:
• What is your biggest concern? Ask yourself what concerns you most about your child's attitude. Now put yourself in your child's shoes: How does he feel? How did it affect your relationship with your child? What about his relationship with family members or friends who were witnesses? What do you wish would change? Write your wishes in your Makeover Journal. Now reread those wishes often. Doing so will fuel your desire to change your child's attitude.
• Which bad attitude will you work on first? Which attitudes would you like to tune up most in your child? Flip to the Contents in the front of this book, and review the list. Talk to other important caregivers in your child's life to get their opinions. Mark the attitudes that concern you. Choose one that you would like to change now. Granted, there may be several you are concerned about, but stay realistic and practical.Write the attitude on the line below. Now turn to the chapter with the Attitude Makeover and start.There's no time better than the present. Do keep the perspective. No, it won't be easy. No, your child will not change overnight. But change will happen if you are consistent and committed, and keep caring.
The bad attitude I will work on first: _
• What is your legacy? What would you like your great legacy to be for your child? Fast-forward your child twenty-five years from now. What do you hope are the virtues she possesses? What is it about her moral character that you hope has replaced the bad attitudes she may have had as a child? What will you do to ensure that she attains that legacy? Write a letter to yourself describing your hopes and dreams for your child—the legacy you would like to leave. Reread your letter often.
You're ready! Turn to the first attitude you want to change in your child, read the makeover plan, and start.Then be relentless until you see the change of attitude you're looking for.
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Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.