So where is your kid getting this mean streak? No one is born mean. In fact, kids are hard-wired for empathy and compassion. But unless we nurture those traits, they will lie dormant, and mean, insensitive behaviors can emerge. Let's take a serious look at the root cause of this attitude. For instance, have you ever been mean to your spouse, family, friends, or kids?
Your child learns a great deal about kindness simply by watching your behavior. How has your example been lately? If you want your child to be kind whenever you are together, consciously demonstrate kind behavior. There are many daily opportunities: watching your friend's child, phoning a friend who is down, picking up trash, soothing a child, giving directions, asking someone how she is, baking cookies for your family, always speaking with sensitivity toward others.After performing the kindness, be sure to tell your child how good it made you feel! By seeing kindness through your daily words and deeds and hearing you emphasize how being kind makes you feel good, your child will be much more likely to follow your example.The old saying,"Children learn what they live," has a lot of truth to it.
What is the first step you need to take in yourself to be a better example to your kids for dealing with their mean attitude? Write down changes you need to make.
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