Enforce a sharing attitude by immediate and active interven-tion.The most crucial basic skill to cure an uncooperative bad attitude is sharing. If you don't know how to share, you'll never be able to take turns, work on a team, get along in a family or group of friends, or collaborate in a workplace. So you better get started early in teaching this essential good attitude. Teach cooperative play with your younger child by sitting side by side, taking turns, and sharing every toy so he experiences the give and take of everyday life. Do it in the sandbox, playing with dolls, stuffed animals, and action toys, building blocks, and working with clay. For older kids, start with board games; then graduate to playing catch, Frisbee, video games, and ultimately work projects in the home, yard, or community. In each case, you'll be teaching your kid how to work with other individuals or in a team.
Cooperation is all about working together and supporting one another, and those are tough notions for spoiled kids who are too tightly wrapped up in themselves.To really cooperate in any group—family, sports, scouting, church, club, play, or school—you must set aside your individual concerns for the needs of the group.There's no time to be self-centered, think only of yourself, and want things to only go your way.
There may be several reasons that your kid has an uncooperative attitude. He may be feeling shy and uncertain about how people feel about him, may be preoccupied with some other problem at home or school that's distracting his attention, may lack social experiences that people need to learn basic friendship skills, or may have been so pampered and spoiled that he thinks he's the center of the universe and never has to share or work with others.
Cooperating is about working for the team or family or group—whatever the size. And doing so means you can't always be first, win, share, or have your own way.You have to put aside your wants and desires, and acknowledge the feelings and concerns of others. Learning the replacement virtues of cooperation, friendliness, and caring dramatically increases kids' chances of success in school, home, and life. It's all the more reason to curb your kid's uncooperative attitude.
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