Group Bullying

BULLYING MAY ALSO BE A GROUP PHENOMENON WITH PARTICULAR CHARACTERISTICS. This means that there are a number of children and young people who may at times be involved in bullying, but who would not usually take the initiative themselves. These are called passive bullies, henchmen, or bystanders. The group of passive bullies is quite mixed and may include uncertain or anxious students. SOME OF THE MECHANISMS THAT MAY BE ACTIVE IN GROUP BULLYING ARE Some students may be influenced to take part in...

Dont Give Up

Want their parents to talk with school officials. Victims often do not want to be the center of attention and are afraid of getting the bully into trouble by telling adults about what is going on. In many cases, these children have also been threatened with increased bullying if they tell. Threats cause many victims of bullying to suffer in silence or to pressure their parents not to contact the school. In most cases, however, you are doing your child a dis-service if you do not pursue the...

How Do I Find Out Whether My Child Is Bullying

To acknowledge that your own child is a bully. Bullying other students is obviously not something a child will talk about at home. But if several of the points described under Who Bullies ' fit your child, you should take this seriously and look more closely into the matter. Bullying can be seen as a part of a general pattern of anti-social and rule-breaking behavior. Children who are bullies during their school years are at a much higher risk of later becoming involved in crime, misuse of...

How Much Bullying Goes On

MAJOR STUDIES IN NORWAY in the 1980s and 1990s with more than 150,000 students found that about 15 percent of students in primary and lower secondary school, or approximately one in seven students, were involved in bullying with a degree of regularity as a victim, as a bully, or both. At least 5 percent (more than 1 in 20) of all students were involved in more serious bullying at least once a week. In the United States in 1998, the prevalence of bullying was found to be even more substantial. A...

Note

Although it is important that home and school work together in cases of bullying, it must be emphasized that the school should take the main responsibility to initiate and coordinate the work involved in counteracting bullying in school. Some parents who have approached schools with their worries and suspicions about their child being bullied have had the door closed in their faces with comments such as there isn't any bullying at our school or you are worrying about nothing. If you are...

Who Gets Bullied

RESEARCH GIVES A FAIRLY CLEAR PICTURE OF THOSE WHO ARE POTENTIAL VICTIMS OF BULLYING. They tend to have at least one, or usually several, of the characteristics listed below. These lists only indicate main trends in some cases, victims may be quite different. Potential victims of bullying can be divided into two main groups Most children in this category are not aggressive or teasing in their manner and usually do not actively provoke others in their surroundings. However, passive victims of...

Who Bullies

Potential bullies have a number of common features. Again, it must be emphasized that these points are just the main trends. All the same, it is likely that an active bully will have one or more of the following characteristics. It has often been presumed that bullies are anxious and unsure of themselves underneath their tough surface. However, research finds that bullies are characterized by either unusually low or about average levels of anxiety and insecurity. Their self-image is also about...

Where Does Bullying Take Place

THE CLAIM IS SOMETIMES MADE THAT most bullying takes place on the way to school, not at school. However, research shows that two to three times as many students are bullied at school compared to those who are bullied on the way to school. Approximately 40 to 75 percent of bullying takes place during breaks in the schoolyard, in the corridors, at recess, or in more secluded places, like bathrooms. It can also take place during classes unless the teacher is attentive and cracks down on any...

What Can You Do If Your Child Is a Bully

Being informed by the school or another source that your child is bullying other students may be a difficult fact to face. Making excuses and playing down your child's behavior will not FOR THE SAKE OF THE VICTIM AND FOR YOUR OWN CHILD'S FUTURE. help him or her. On the contrary, you should act quickly for the sake of the victim and for your own child's future. As mentioned earlier, children who are aggressive toward their peers are at high risk for what is...

The Olweus Bullying Prevention Program

Increase awareness and knowledge of problems related to bullying as well as dispel a number of myths about the causes of bullying. The use of the Olweus Bully Victim Questionnaire in an anonymous survey is an important step toward the acquisition of more concrete information about the occurrence and forms of the problem in the individual school. Get teachers and parents actively involved. This means that the adults must take responsibility for controlling what is going on among the students in...

Steps You Can Take

Help your child strengthen his or her self-confidence, for example, by stimulating the development of any talents or positive qualities. Help your child join other groups of children of the same age (who preferably are not in the same class at school) in sports, music, or other leisure time activities. Physical training in particular, if your child has the interest or ability, results in the child giving out different signals to those around him or her. contact with (and perhaps bring home) a...

Let the School Arrange a Meeting

The school should contact the parents of both the victim(s) and the bullies to inform them and to try to establish constructive cooperation. Since a victim's parents usually should not contact the bully's parents directly, the school could arrange a meeting at which the students, as well as their parents, are present. The aim of such a meeting is to bring about a thorough discussion of the situation and to arrive at a concrete plan of action. If the bully has damaged the victim's clothes or...

My Child Is Being

Your child may feel that being bullied is a personal defeat, or he or she may have received threats from the bullies. The child may have tried before to tell an adult about the bullying and may not have been given any real help. He or she may be afraid that involving adults will make the bullying even worse. Therefore, you must be particularly sensitive to signs and changes in your child. It is important that you do not try to explain away your child's problems and hope that they will...

References

P., Cunningham, P., Osgood, D. W., Chambers, J., Flerx, V., (1998). Prevalence of Bullying The South Carolina Report. Henggeler, S., and Nation, M. (1998). Violence among rural youth. Final report to the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. Nansel, T. R., Overpeck, M., Pilla, R. S., Ruan, W. J., Simons-Morton, B., and Scheidt, P. (2001). Bullying behaviors among U.S. youth Prevalence and association with psychosocial adjustment. Journal of the...

Common Sense Rules For Parents

MUCH RESEARCH ON FAMILY CONDITIONS AND THE UPBRINGING OF CHILDREN HAS LED TO THIS IMPORTANT CONCLUSION A lot of love and involvement from the people bringing up children, clear limits for what behavior is allowed and not allowed, as well as the use of nonviolent methods of upbringing, creates non-aggressive, harmonious, and independent children. Here are some common sense rules for parents caregivers who want to help children have a positive childhood. Let your child feel he or she is...