Conclusion to the Chaos

If anyone has one then please let me know!

Whether you have dipped into this book and merely read chapters that are applicable to your family life and situation, or whether you have read from cover to cover and so taken a peek into our multicoloured mayhem, I can only hope that the experience has been educational, enlightening and entertaining.

The experiences of parenting a severely autistic child who smears poo, harms him- or herself and is unhappy with the world cannot be equated with the experiences of parenting a 'high functioning' child. Moreover the cocktail of difficulties that an impulsive AD/HD child presents makes the parenting and caring experience very different to that of parenting a rule-bound AS child. Nevertheless one thing that all parents, carers and professionals dealing with any child on the autistic spectrum have in common, is recognizing that each child brings his or her own kaleidoscope ofcolour to enrich, and sometimes distort, the family dynamics.

As a parent of a combination of children of all ages and colours of the spectrum, my experiences may be different to many, and the practicalities of parenting more than one child, particularly on one's own, are not so easy to negotiate. Text books never take into account the fact that a parent needs to be in several places at once, needs to hold many conversations at the same time, needs another couple of pairs of arms and eyes in the back of his or her head.. .maybe in this age ofgenetic engineering a 'Super-Mum' could be created with these requirements in mind!

Indeed a Super-Mum is one thing I am certainly not. Whilst I have written tips on how to speak calmly and clearly to our multicoloured children, I have often ranted and raved at my own. Whilst I have given tips on how to advocate for our children, I have often felt intimidated and so let things deteriorate at school for far too long. I have advised on how to survive as a parent and maintain your own identity, yet have often nearly drowned in a sea of self-pity, being too proud and stubborn to ask for help. I have given tips on how to relax and take some time out but yet often worked myselfto the point ofexhaustion. I am certainly not perfect.. .my children will tell you that. Nevertheless I do try, and fully believe that ifwe have truly made every effort to be the best parent, carer, teacher, doctor or therapist to these unique children, then we can hold our heads up high, release others to think what they will, and stand proud in the knowledge that we tried.

Indeed, one message that I hold dear to my heart and consider the most important piece of advice that I can give to parents, carers, professionals (and of course to our multicoloured children too) is quite simply. do your best. We may get it wrong from time to time but no one can ask for more.

Appendix

Understanding And Treating Autism

Understanding And Treating Autism

Whenever a doctor informs the parents that their child is suffering with Autism, the first & foremost question that is thrown over him is - How did it happen? How did my child get this disease? Well, there is no definite answer to what are the exact causes of Autism.

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