Active Listening

Active Listening

We can all recall situations where we have utterly failed to listen to what someone else is saying. For various reasons, we are simply not taking in anything useful. How many times have you been introduced to a person by name only to not know what their name is thirty seconds later?

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Step Cultivate Listening Skills

Narrow-minded kids only want to hear what they want to hear, and rarely tune in to what the other person is saying.The result they will continue to be narrow-minded. Cultivate your kid's listening skills so that he not only hears new information but becomes more receptive to fresh ideas. Here are ways to do so Model listening. Kids learn listening best not through our lectures but by copying others. Use natural opportunities to really listen to your child so he has a good model to copy. Stop what you're doing, give him your full attention, and then model good listening skills look him eye to eye, nod and smile, and lean in slightly toward him so he feels your presence. Teach listening behaviors. SOLER is a simple acronym representing the five behaviors good listeners demonstrate.

Therapeutic Interventions

Role play with the parents how to use active listening (e.g., 37. Instruct the parents to eliminate hostile and passive-aggressive behaviors (e.g., arguing, pouting, appeasement, leaving) when resolving conflict by substituting more assertive, proactive negotiation strategies (e.g., I statements, active listening, brainstorming).

Interventions

Guide the parents in using proactive strategies (e.g., I statements, consequences, limit setting, choices) to modify behavior that is creating a problem for them and supportive interventions (e.g., active listening, empathy, encouragement, brainstorming, problem solving) to assist when the problem belongs to the child.